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Harry Potter and the Needing of the Shave
For some reason I'm just now getting around to posting that I went to the midnight show for Harry Potter 6 on Tuesday. Fandom was, as expected, ridiculous and absurd. The little kids were the most well-behaved, their parents were the worst, and silly teens in "sexy" Hogwarts uniforms cracked me up. Oh Fandom, you embarass yourself and me.
I liked it very much. I've learned to steel myself against being annoyed at all the stuff they would certainly cut out. I wanted to see the "other minister," the long version of Bella and Snape's exchange at Spinners End, house elves, Dumbledore vs Dursleys, the battle at the end, and the Gaunts. No dice. Why add an extra action scene if it just means taking one out later? There was precious little Minerva...and she is looking pretty old. Plus, where the hell was Bill Weasley? They made such a to-do about casting Brendan Gleeson's son and he was nowhere to be found. Frownie McFrownerson.
Oh the plus side, Draco and Snape were amazing. Helena Bonham Carter is a major girl-crush for me, and she was awesome. Luna was delightful in every single scene she was in. The girl they got for LavLav was delightfully annoying. There was lots to laugh about, and lots to like. I was pleased with the movie overall but I really need to see it again. When I see a movie like that, espcially sitting in the third row, I feel like I only got a glimpse of it. I'm stoked to see the extra footage at IMAX.
I knew Albus's death would not affect me as much as the book. I have never been into Michael Gambon's Dumbledore, as I think he misses what I consider to be Dumbledores most notable qualities. Specifically, his unfailing politeness. Gambon gets mad, he snaps at people, and just lacks the air of grandeur that makes Dumbledore such an amazing character. Richard Harris was spot-on. Stupid Death ruining my films!
Not much Greyback, to my dismay. If I didn't already know he was a werewolf, I don't think the movie would have told me. Anyway, those are the broad strokes of it.
Made a rather depressing realization about my personal life. When I was younger and in the dating scene I had a serious issue with proactivity. If I decided the person I was dating was unsuitable for me, I would never do the breaking up. Instead, I would just stop caring what the person thought of me, and treated them accordingly. When they broke up with me, I could then pretend that I was being victimized. Apparently this is a pretty common pattern among survivors of abuse.
I was disappointed to become aware that I repeated this same pattern with a person I was in a supposed friendship with. Rather than being clear about saying I don't like you. I don't enjoy your company. I'd rather not interact with you unless I have to. I bascially reverted to what I'd call "not putting up with their shit." This translates to me not being remotely respectful of the fact that the person I don't like has feelings. I thought that I had progressed beyond that kind of passive aggresive game playing. Apparently not. So yeah...that was a bummer. On the plus side, the situation exploded and now I don't have to pretend not to dislike anyone anymore.
I liked it very much. I've learned to steel myself against being annoyed at all the stuff they would certainly cut out. I wanted to see the "other minister," the long version of Bella and Snape's exchange at Spinners End, house elves, Dumbledore vs Dursleys, the battle at the end, and the Gaunts. No dice. Why add an extra action scene if it just means taking one out later? There was precious little Minerva...and she is looking pretty old. Plus, where the hell was Bill Weasley? They made such a to-do about casting Brendan Gleeson's son and he was nowhere to be found. Frownie McFrownerson.
Oh the plus side, Draco and Snape were amazing. Helena Bonham Carter is a major girl-crush for me, and she was awesome. Luna was delightful in every single scene she was in. The girl they got for LavLav was delightfully annoying. There was lots to laugh about, and lots to like. I was pleased with the movie overall but I really need to see it again. When I see a movie like that, espcially sitting in the third row, I feel like I only got a glimpse of it. I'm stoked to see the extra footage at IMAX.
I knew Albus's death would not affect me as much as the book. I have never been into Michael Gambon's Dumbledore, as I think he misses what I consider to be Dumbledores most notable qualities. Specifically, his unfailing politeness. Gambon gets mad, he snaps at people, and just lacks the air of grandeur that makes Dumbledore such an amazing character. Richard Harris was spot-on. Stupid Death ruining my films!
Not much Greyback, to my dismay. If I didn't already know he was a werewolf, I don't think the movie would have told me. Anyway, those are the broad strokes of it.
Made a rather depressing realization about my personal life. When I was younger and in the dating scene I had a serious issue with proactivity. If I decided the person I was dating was unsuitable for me, I would never do the breaking up. Instead, I would just stop caring what the person thought of me, and treated them accordingly. When they broke up with me, I could then pretend that I was being victimized. Apparently this is a pretty common pattern among survivors of abuse.
I was disappointed to become aware that I repeated this same pattern with a person I was in a supposed friendship with. Rather than being clear about saying I don't like you. I don't enjoy your company. I'd rather not interact with you unless I have to. I bascially reverted to what I'd call "not putting up with their shit." This translates to me not being remotely respectful of the fact that the person I don't like has feelings. I thought that I had progressed beyond that kind of passive aggresive game playing. Apparently not. So yeah...that was a bummer. On the plus side, the situation exploded and now I don't have to pretend not to dislike anyone anymore.
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Glad you're realizing this pattern is still with you. That may help you catch yourself earlier next time.
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Yeah, it's a bummer about the so-called friendship, but I'm better off with the increased knowlege of self. I hope so anyway. ;-/