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Harry Potter and the Needing of the Shave
For some reason I'm just now getting around to posting that I went to the midnight show for Harry Potter 6 on Tuesday. Fandom was, as expected, ridiculous and absurd. The little kids were the most well-behaved, their parents were the worst, and silly teens in "sexy" Hogwarts uniforms cracked me up. Oh Fandom, you embarass yourself and me.
I liked it very much. I've learned to steel myself against being annoyed at all the stuff they would certainly cut out. I wanted to see the "other minister," the long version of Bella and Snape's exchange at Spinners End, house elves, Dumbledore vs Dursleys, the battle at the end, and the Gaunts. No dice. Why add an extra action scene if it just means taking one out later? There was precious little Minerva...and she is looking pretty old. Plus, where the hell was Bill Weasley? They made such a to-do about casting Brendan Gleeson's son and he was nowhere to be found. Frownie McFrownerson.
Oh the plus side, Draco and Snape were amazing. Helena Bonham Carter is a major girl-crush for me, and she was awesome. Luna was delightful in every single scene she was in. The girl they got for LavLav was delightfully annoying. There was lots to laugh about, and lots to like. I was pleased with the movie overall but I really need to see it again. When I see a movie like that, espcially sitting in the third row, I feel like I only got a glimpse of it. I'm stoked to see the extra footage at IMAX.
I knew Albus's death would not affect me as much as the book. I have never been into Michael Gambon's Dumbledore, as I think he misses what I consider to be Dumbledores most notable qualities. Specifically, his unfailing politeness. Gambon gets mad, he snaps at people, and just lacks the air of grandeur that makes Dumbledore such an amazing character. Richard Harris was spot-on. Stupid Death ruining my films!
Not much Greyback, to my dismay. If I didn't already know he was a werewolf, I don't think the movie would have told me. Anyway, those are the broad strokes of it.
Made a rather depressing realization about my personal life. When I was younger and in the dating scene I had a serious issue with proactivity. If I decided the person I was dating was unsuitable for me, I would never do the breaking up. Instead, I would just stop caring what the person thought of me, and treated them accordingly. When they broke up with me, I could then pretend that I was being victimized. Apparently this is a pretty common pattern among survivors of abuse.
I was disappointed to become aware that I repeated this same pattern with a person I was in a supposed friendship with. Rather than being clear about saying I don't like you. I don't enjoy your company. I'd rather not interact with you unless I have to. I bascially reverted to what I'd call "not putting up with their shit." This translates to me not being remotely respectful of the fact that the person I don't like has feelings. I thought that I had progressed beyond that kind of passive aggresive game playing. Apparently not. So yeah...that was a bummer. On the plus side, the situation exploded and now I don't have to pretend not to dislike anyone anymore.
I liked it very much. I've learned to steel myself against being annoyed at all the stuff they would certainly cut out. I wanted to see the "other minister," the long version of Bella and Snape's exchange at Spinners End, house elves, Dumbledore vs Dursleys, the battle at the end, and the Gaunts. No dice. Why add an extra action scene if it just means taking one out later? There was precious little Minerva...and she is looking pretty old. Plus, where the hell was Bill Weasley? They made such a to-do about casting Brendan Gleeson's son and he was nowhere to be found. Frownie McFrownerson.
Oh the plus side, Draco and Snape were amazing. Helena Bonham Carter is a major girl-crush for me, and she was awesome. Luna was delightful in every single scene she was in. The girl they got for LavLav was delightfully annoying. There was lots to laugh about, and lots to like. I was pleased with the movie overall but I really need to see it again. When I see a movie like that, espcially sitting in the third row, I feel like I only got a glimpse of it. I'm stoked to see the extra footage at IMAX.
I knew Albus's death would not affect me as much as the book. I have never been into Michael Gambon's Dumbledore, as I think he misses what I consider to be Dumbledores most notable qualities. Specifically, his unfailing politeness. Gambon gets mad, he snaps at people, and just lacks the air of grandeur that makes Dumbledore such an amazing character. Richard Harris was spot-on. Stupid Death ruining my films!
Not much Greyback, to my dismay. If I didn't already know he was a werewolf, I don't think the movie would have told me. Anyway, those are the broad strokes of it.
Made a rather depressing realization about my personal life. When I was younger and in the dating scene I had a serious issue with proactivity. If I decided the person I was dating was unsuitable for me, I would never do the breaking up. Instead, I would just stop caring what the person thought of me, and treated them accordingly. When they broke up with me, I could then pretend that I was being victimized. Apparently this is a pretty common pattern among survivors of abuse.
I was disappointed to become aware that I repeated this same pattern with a person I was in a supposed friendship with. Rather than being clear about saying I don't like you. I don't enjoy your company. I'd rather not interact with you unless I have to. I bascially reverted to what I'd call "not putting up with their shit." This translates to me not being remotely respectful of the fact that the person I don't like has feelings. I thought that I had progressed beyond that kind of passive aggresive game playing. Apparently not. So yeah...that was a bummer. On the plus side, the situation exploded and now I don't have to pretend not to dislike anyone anymore.
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Glad you're realizing this pattern is still with you. That may help you catch yourself earlier next time.
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Yeah, it's a bummer about the so-called friendship, but I'm better off with the increased knowlege of self. I hope so anyway. ;-/
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(Shit. I gotta ... uh ... make some phone calls ...)
Tee-hee. Seriouser, though -- people who weaponize their emotions deserve pity *first,* and respect if you can get around to it.
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Admitting you're emotionally crippled and not able to be proactive about it is one thing. Lashing out at everyone around around you because you can't even begin to consider engaging in introspection...that's just a walking joke. You know, the kind of joke that infuriates me to the point of madness. Plus, I'm sure you know my well-broadcast feelings about abusive people.
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Jeez, that's a really hard situation to deal with anyway no matter what you do. If you would have been upfront with him, I don't think it would have ended any better than it did. It sounds like you were in a real dilemma. Also, it's not surprising that most of us avoid confrontation and hard feelings whenever possible. I used to get so angry with myself for avoiding conflict and being so passive, but when I got more assertive and confrontational, I learned that doing so usually didn't lead anywhere positive anyway and often made the situation worse.
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But, yes, you put your finger on what bothers me about this Dumbledore, no politeness, no knowing looks, he just isn't richard harris. I may get the dvd with the special features if it's going to have the extra scenes, maybe they would be worth watching.
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That's really the problem with Gambon. Richard Harris was so perfect that if somebody else tries to be that perfect a Dumbledore, it appears that they are impersonating Richard Harris. I understand the urge to bring something new to the character. I just don't agree with Gambon's choices and think they directly contradict the way the character is written.
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That really turned me off from him playing that character right there.
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That's too bad.
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when i looked over at my sister at albus's death - she had her hand over her mouth in utter horror (she knew it was coming) - me, the snape lover, smiled. not that i don't like albus - i just like the evil protagonist characters more.
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I got all the way into the comments before realizing that you weren't
I'm Cassandra, pleased to meet you. I live in Saskatoon, Canada. I think we know each other through
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James did the intense and evocative cover design for my first novel. Don't know if you read his prose, but he has a wicked collection of short stories out.
I pride myself on not being an asshole in internet debates
Dude, you've no idea how much I desire to have articulate internet debates with someone who isn't an asshole. For serious.
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I believe a skilled debater can firmly put someone in their place without being an asshole. It just takes effort.
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As to the debating, I strenuously concur.
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Bwa-ha-ha!
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The second part was the Battle of Hogwarts. What was the point of having all the other deatheaters coming in to Hogwarts? To help Draco kill Dumbledore? If that were the case, then why would he have been working on fixing the vanishing cabinet, even while trying the cursed necklace and the poisoned mead? No sense!
Yeah, I REALLY wanted to see the battle. I'm very annoyed that they left it out.
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OH hell yes. One of the most difficult aspects of my recovery has been getting honest, both with myself and with the people I'm involved with. This has earned me the nickname of Metatron in some circles. I tell it like it is before things get ugly and I'm hiding behind victim-hood. It's *terrifying* but the consequences of telling the truth are far better for me than the consequences of staying in victim mode. I respect you so much that you recognized the pattern. Good on ya!
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