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Excuse me sir, you're an ass!
I try not to complain about individuals I know too too much in my personal journal. Not being a high school student, I don't nessesarily want everyone on the planet knowing all the intricacies of the tangled Web of Wednes. But today, I must make an exception.
I have this freind, or rather HAD this friend who was very unlike me. He was a straight laced guy who was in many ways, so ordinary that he was extraordinary. He wrote country songs and had a radio show, he had splendid triva knowlege and was even pretty good in the sack (I met him years before I met H).
Over the years he has limited his contact with me whenever he found a new girlfreind. That was a drag, but whaddaya gonna do? Well, the new girlfreind has decided that he and I shouldn't be alone in a room together, ever. And he has decided that "since we're so different it's just not worth the hassle".
Well, I have a few comments:
1- How whipped *are* you anyway?
2- People learn and grow by spending time with people who are different than they are. If everyone were just like ourselves, we'd never be expesed to new ideas or new points of view.
3- It greatly hurts my feelings to hear that my freindship is not worth the effort.
4- What kind of a relationship does a person have when they can't be trusted to visit with freinds? That's just stupid.
5- You sir, are an ASS!
But let me ask, how common is it that people "forbid" partners from seeing other people. Have you ever done this to your partner? Have you had it done to you? What was the outcome? Do tell!
I have this freind, or rather HAD this friend who was very unlike me. He was a straight laced guy who was in many ways, so ordinary that he was extraordinary. He wrote country songs and had a radio show, he had splendid triva knowlege and was even pretty good in the sack (I met him years before I met H).
Over the years he has limited his contact with me whenever he found a new girlfreind. That was a drag, but whaddaya gonna do? Well, the new girlfreind has decided that he and I shouldn't be alone in a room together, ever. And he has decided that "since we're so different it's just not worth the hassle".
Well, I have a few comments:
1- How whipped *are* you anyway?
2- People learn and grow by spending time with people who are different than they are. If everyone were just like ourselves, we'd never be expesed to new ideas or new points of view.
3- It greatly hurts my feelings to hear that my freindship is not worth the effort.
4- What kind of a relationship does a person have when they can't be trusted to visit with freinds? That's just stupid.
5- You sir, are an ASS!
But let me ask, how common is it that people "forbid" partners from seeing other people. Have you ever done this to your partner? Have you had it done to you? What was the outcome? Do tell!
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But...
I've *never* been in a relationship where I was forbidden to see anyone. And I've never done same to any of my partners. Furthermore, if a partner of mine ever laid down the law to me in that fashion, there'd be one of two outcomes: Long talk, and appropriate boundaries laid down. Or I'd be single. You don't trust me? Then just why are you sleeping next to me?
I look at this about the same way I look at physical violence. You try it on me, I'm gone.
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Unless it is some cowardly way of ending the freindship without taking any responsibility.
*mutter*windowcloseonmewillit?*mutter*
Never have either way, but wish I could to make sure people I care about stay away from bad people.
You're not just a friend, you've been intimate, and I, myself get nervus when people I'm with are still close to ex's - though I'm bitter.
Might not have anything to do with the situation, but when I date someone seriously, I tend to withdraw from friends whom I'm really attracted to.
wow these moments are tricky.
But I have dealt with the evil exes.
The worst scenario ever was one of my exes married this girl who was a teeny bit pyscho. Well their marraige was on the rocks for a ewhile, and for a striaght summer I started getting hang-ups, (although I didn't want anything to do with this guy). I found outit was her, then they stopped. then I moved to the apts in college, and about three years later my phone starts ringing non-stop all night. It's the pyscho wife of this ex I dated years back. She lied to my parents saying she was one of my "friends" so she could get my #. Needless to say she harassed me, and the next day I yelled at my parents telling them they weren't allowed to give out my apt. # ever unless they were SURE who the friend was.
Then years later a lovely ex who still tries to hang w/me occasionally, like getting tea and stuff, tells me his current starts to get really BITCHY when my name is mentioned. It could have been because he called me when they would fight to complain about her, but whatever. Some people are pyscho-clingy. It scares me, especially after the pyscho phone stalker chick.
I hope this friend realizes how moronic it is to let someone control they own self. Unless maybe he likes not thinking for himself. I wouldn't, and I'm sure you wouldn't either.
People man, why can't we just watch cats for a sec, and meow when we're upset.
Re: wow these moments are tricky.
I can understand some jealousy, but that's a lot different than saying, "You can see ___, but you can't see ___." That's just crazy.
Re: wow these moments are tricky.
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3 words >>> Crazy Fucking Bitches!
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It just seems like low-self-esteeme on parade. And since I have my own issues in that area, I am extra offended at grown people who act like we're still playing by playground rules. I don't like her so if you want to be my freind you cant' like her either...gow UP for heaven's sake!!!
I knew you'd be with me on this, dear!
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PS: They just got divorced last year after a rough year long marriage.
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hey, if you're free tonight I'm having people over!