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[wednes]

Photo by Wendy Kubacki

Here is me with my new wand that was made for me by my good friend Steve. It's made of red oak and is sanded to a cool shine. He also sanded up some staffs (staves? I call them wands, not rods) for me and absinthofheart. We two are lucky gals.

Something has been bugging me lately. There's a person I've known forever who has started to strike me as so pretentious I can hardly stand it. It was bothering me to the point of profound annoyance and I couldn't figure out why it was bugging me too much. I began to wonder if perhaps I was the one who had become snobby and irritating. I'm still mulling it over and am open to any insights you fine folks might have. I'd like to think I'm very down to earth and easygoing, even though I'm prone to freaking out needlessly about things. But I don't think I'm pretentious. Although now that I think about it, my Mom says I am. Or said. I haven't talked to her in years so I don't know what she says now, but I bet it's all the same. Yeah, she always said I was snobby with my new clothes and fancy book learnin'. Okay, this is turning into a ramble.

I'm done with work until after the Big Thing. We are going to get the license on Monday, or apply for it or whatever. Then I have to buy enough soda for 60 people. I'm going to figure 2 for everyone plus an extra case. Some people will likely bring beer or wine. My dress is done being hemmed and I'll have my "final fitting" on Monday as well. H's mom went crazy buying gifts off our registry. How long is one supposed to leave the registry up for after the wedding? I'm sure it's considered *gasp* tacky to keep it up to "too long." And tacky is the worst possible word to describe someones wedding choices...if the knot has anything to say about it anyway.

Comments

[princezna.livejournal.com]

you are so cute dressed up in your witch outfit! you must be getting so excited about the wedding!! It must be so fun!!

[wednes.livejournal.com]

It is pretty fun.

And thanks!

[eroslane.livejournal.com]

Doin' it ol' skool:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/boxspring/184753669/

Found that on Dicker. Er, Flickr. HA.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

That is so tits.

[groovesinorbit]

You're looking sharp.

[hellamama.livejournal.com]

I admit I haven't seen you in years, but I can't imagine you being snobby or pretentious, ever. And if you were, the hula would totally call you out on it. So, I'm guessing, it's not you.

[liadra.livejournal.com]

I think guests have a year to give you gifts - but not sure you leave your registry up that long. Maybe ask at the store?

[maxverbosity.livejournal.com]

You don't strike me at all as pretentious. Take it from someone who is seen as exactly that all the time.

[diachrony.livejournal.com]

Well, you don't seem the least bit pretentious online!

I love that pic. Witchy cuteness!

[absinthofheart.livejournal.com]

I can't wait to see my new staff! I bet it's awesome! Oh, and we have a new option for S's dress. I'll show you when I see you Wednesday.

Yes, you can be pretentious sometimes, but that is no different from anyone else. It's not all the time, mind you, just once in a while. Still, if someones pretentious attitude becomes insulting, let them know. Politely, of course.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

tee hee hee Thanks!

[wednes.livejournal.com]

That's a good point. Bre would certainly not let me get away with that crap.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Wow, a year? Cool.

It's an Amazon registry, so I'm sure that can be left up basically forever.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Okay, I will.

Thanks!

[wednes.livejournal.com]

I'm glad to know I'm not a snob.

Thanks! It's one of my new dresses.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

I guess I am a movie snob, at least. ;-]

The staves are pretty damn awesome, even though I thought they'd be varnished. I think they actually look better plain.

Can't wait to see the dress!

[lostsatellite.livejournal.com]

I was going to say something about people having a year to buy you gifts, so you may as well leave your registry up that long...I don't know if some places purge you from the system after such and such amount of time or not, but I would probably take it down after a year and move whatever you don't have to your regular wishlist or something...

[lickingtoad.livejournal.com]

Pretentiousness seems almost impossible to recognize from within -- 'Look at me, I'm such a dandy! My foppishness is boundless! Hoo boy, am I riding high on my horse today!'

Think of all the people you know who strike you as full of themselves and clearly have no idea their mindset is perhaps due to be widened or humbled. In fact, most of the people I know who exhibit that behavior actively resist letting go of it -- it becomes self-worth, and an attack on the ego is seen as personal. (... mmf. Like I know anyone who can seperate their ego from the self?)

I've always thought the key is to know what you *can* do, or what you *do* know, and past that admit there are-and-will-always-be some things you can't do and won't know. I guess that's the core of pretentiousness, as I see it -- willful and explicit denial of one's limitations, foibles, warts, failures -- essential humanity. Nobody *wants* to admit every single time they've fucked up, and if you're like me you get awfully hung up right there.

Competence is knowing what you can do, pretentiousness is assuming you can already do it. Maybe. I'm just being wordy because this is one of my enormous pet-peeves: I get irritated by people who can't admit they've ever made a bad decision, or done wrong, or aren't equipped to handle everything. Everybody knows at least one person like that.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

That seems reasonable.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Interesting. Then I think I'm mostly in the clear...

[(Anonymous)]

you look really cute-:)

[sexyrockgoddess.livejournal.com]

you look really cute-:)

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Thank you anonymous stranger!

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Aha! It was YOU.

Thank you!!

[lirrin.livejournal.com]

You don't strike me as pretentious at all, though we've never met in person. Only thing I can offer up is that I have one or two long-term friends whose fundamental personalities are beginning to wear on me for other reasons, and it seems kind of sudden, but it's like a long, slow burn more than anything. I'm at a different place in my life than I was when it was easier to ignore. :)

[wednes.livejournal.com]

*nods*

I do find that I'm less tolerant of people and their bullshit than I used to be.

[peteralway.livejournal.com]

That picture is great fun. And, well, I can't imagine the subject of that photo being pretentious.

[wednes.livejournal.com]

tee hee hee

Thanks!