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Boffo in Bosnia
I got interviewed by a Bosnian magazine about six months ago. Never heard back. On a whim, I was looking through old Emails and came across the link to the mag's website. Turns out, the interview went live last November.
Of course, I don't speak Bosnian.
So I used Google Translate:
Hot line call at midnight
By Urban on November 19 , 2013
Phone sex is not lost on the popularity of the " hot" lines are equally heated as before . The velvety voice from the other side that you unmistakably tells you what you want to hear , only confirms the fact that the brain , rather than a bed , a place where going all
Sexy chat recommended as a way to break the monotony , and often no choice much more than that if they are partners in different parts of the world . Most of us , at least one part brave , he embarked on at least one of " love over the wire " , using a film phrases , overcoming shame and sweaty palms gripping the phone . There are those who liked this practice so they learn how to access much more relaxed and of course the professionals who whisper about " adult stuff " method to earn cash amounts that are not negligible . One of them is the American Wednesday Lee Friday, otherwise the girl interesting biography . For eight years she spent as a phone sex operator , and OR enrolled and activities such as radio host , editors , employees in fast food , tamer of reptiles and eventually found it in writing horror novella , which now brings her considerable success .
For sex operator job ad I found in The MetroTimes magazine . They were looking for a girl that could work from home , which for me was a great opportunity , because I haven't passed the driving test , and I live in a place where public transport is very poorly organized . Agency that gave ad led the couple , the woman is also working on " hot line " was very attractive and made no secret of its exterior, what more of her paintings were screened to one who called . Menu option to post your own photos did not like , so they found a model that was hiding behind my voice . Otherwise, as a person who has a bachelor 's degree in theater and broadcasting , conditions that were asked seemed to me as something quite natural . I previously worked in customer service so I have learned here how to treat and talk to people , I have a nice tone of voice , diction 've perfected at work radio host , and not an act we do not go bad due to the fact that I have a lot of time , especially during the study , conducted in the theater , recalled Wednesday .
The first day on the job , as it usually is , gone bad. Clients who are eagerly waiting to Wednes took the call did not have much understanding for beginners problems . The phone rang , and its " halo " rendered difficult task ; supposed to identify themselves with the much older and more experienced women than herself . He did not even befell the Title so it happened that after the " baby " of the same man calls " buddy " and her awkwardness and knew to be ridiculous . But , eventually acquiring routine.
" I spent hours and hours talking before I finally started to feel less uncomfortable . It is very important not to give up after a few disappointing call . And here you have bad and good days . At the beginning I was looking for ways to make it easier for myself and to escape from this terrible feeling of discomfort so I pribjeglavala and smoking marijuana in the minimum quantities that helped me to relax , but also stay concentrated . Basically , it is necessary to forget about shyness , turn off your inner critic, and I leave right outside the door . Speak slower than usual and do not rush to describe the scene . The manner in which you speak is as important as the story itself . I try to have fun . If you feel bad for a long time , then it is not a choice for you . "
Lee " hotline " calls during the show that sometimes the situation may get out of hand . It is not considered typical , but admits that sometimes grew very excited and it's through this work have learned more about myself , but also for men .
- I've always suspected that those who are called " hot line" and messing with pornography , insecure and emotionally sleepy , lazy . I still stand by it, but do not generalize . A lot of them are a masochist , which can be scary. Also , it is interesting that most of them did not know to say " goodbye " at the end . Would usually hang-ups immediately after excuses " oh " .
No matter what , even in " democratic " America could not because of the way she spent hours , find a public condemnation , Wednes did not hide when engaged . All her friends are her the absolute support , and often they are interested in the smallest details . On the other hand , was met with disapproval by parents who were terrified by the thought and the order could ever do something like that .
- I did not live with them, nor do I work for the right to use the name , and I decided that what I 'm doing between four walls is not their concern .
So , although the chitchat six hours a day always on the same topics , with occasional variations , should be monotonous , unusual requests was to spare and surprises did not end .
- I knew that somewhere in the world there are fans of the foot , but I was very familiar with the team to enjoy a sexual relationship with shoes . One longtime client has asked me to pretend I beat myself during the interview , others wanted to listen to me while Mork ... The point is that just because of the crowd of freaks learn once and say " no," for example, requests that are asked of me to I play a girl , quite a little girl , I refused . Different companies have different rules about what you may refuse , to me it was very important to always and at all times I can say " I do not want this ," even if it paid less for it.
After a while, Wednesday broke away from the agency and began working independently . She tried to form their own list of regular clients , which is much more demanding than answering calls that redirects the company . Around Ceti hours each day is spent waiting for calls .
- Making 50 cents per minute , sitting in his pajamas and chatting with people around the country , is not at all bad . During the day replacing a myriad of roles, you have between 18 and 70 years , you little homo , little bisekusualni , at one point shy virgin , and then the dominant mistress ... All the things you would never do in real life , it is possible .
Notwithstanding the aforementioned benefits , after a few years , her telephone romance became tiresome . Too much time is spent in the house , and she felt that she was ready to turn to something more serious . In addition , things with her then- boyfriend , husband present , are becoming more serious .
- He never told me to stop with this business , but I noticed that he seemed worried . Then there were the occasional problem with customers . One of them is stalking me , and others sent the strange , sometimes frightening packages . No matter what your identity is not known to have things that you do not give peace . However , if you ask me whether what you are doing sex operators to be fun , without thinking I will answer in the affirmative .
Wondering what I actually said? You're in luck, because I save copies of all my interviews.
How did you start with sex phone operator job and why?
I answered a listing in a magazine called The MetroTimes. It was based in Detroit, MI. They were looking for girls who could set up their own phone line to take sex calls from home. I don't drive and was living in a city with poor public transportation, so working from home was a great thing for me. I interviewed with a man who told me he owned the phonesex business with his wife. She was petite and attractive, and also sold pictures of herself to callers. I explained that I would not be willing to send nudes of myself, so a model was hired to portray me in photos.
Because I had a bachelor's degree in theatre and broadcasting, phonesex seemed like a natural job for me. I had worked customer service jobs in high school and college, so I knew how to talk to people. I had good vocal skills from being on the radio, and decent acting skills since I did a lot of theatre work.
Can you remember your first call?
Yes, I mainly remember that it didn't go so well. I was supposed to be portraying a woman who was much older than myself. I forgot this several times during the call—even referring to the caller as "dude" a few times. He didn't mind, but I was surprised at how uncomfortable I felt.
Have you ever felt really sexy or „turned on“ during some conversation?
I wouldn't say it's typical; but yes, it has happened. Phonesex is a performance, and sometimes a performance can get away from you. Plus, when I first started, I often smoked marijuana to put myself at ease. A little can really help a person relax—too much though, can be an issue on the job.
Did your friends and family knew what were you doing?
My friends all knew. I had, and continue to have, a lot of loving and supportive friends who are open-minded and sex-positive. None of them judged me negatively because of phonesex work—and many of them wanted to hear every sordid detail. My parents, on the other hand, were mortified at the mere suggestion that I would do such a thing. I wasn't using my real name though, and I didn't live with them—so I decided it wasn't any of their business.
Were there any unusual demands?
Oh my, yes! In fact, there were so many "unusual" demands that after a while—very few things seemed unusual to me. I knew, for example, that there were foot-fetishists somewhere in the world. But I had no idea they had intercourse with actual shoes. I had a long-time client who wanted me to pretend to hit myself during the call, and another who liked to listen to girls pee. There were several customers who wanted me to pretend to be very young girls—like, younger than puberty. I was not comfortable with this, and declined. I learned that different phonesex companies have different rules about what (if anything) you're allowed to refuse. I thought it was very important that I be able to decline any calls, requests, or clients I wasn't okay with—even if that meant a lower rate of pay.
Have you learned something new about men by being a sex phone operator, something that you didn’t know before?
I'm not sure that I did. I learned a lot more about myself and my reactions to and interactions with men than I learned about the men. I had always suspected that men were extremely superficial, insecure, and emotionally lazy. I still believe this is true for most men who call these lines, or who engage with pornography more than they do with actual women. But I haven't found this to be true of men in general. There are also an awful lot of masochists in the world. Some of those dudes are really creepy. I found it funny that some men would hang up the phone abruptly immediately after um…finishing. Typical phone etiquette includes saying goodbye—I'm still not sure what need that odd rudeness on their part was supposed to fulfill.
Can you describe us one ordinary working day as a phone actress?
It varied. When I did my own ads and set my own hours, I just stayed near the phone and went on about my day until calls came in. I'd take them, trying to keep the caller on the line for as long as possible while encouraging them to call back another day. Building one's own client base demanded a different skill set than simply taking calls with an established company. When I worked for companies that sent me calls, the calls typically came in with greater frequency. If I was logged in to take calls for 6 hours, I'd spend at least 4 hours of that time actually on the phone. Independent phonesex girls do a lot more waiting around.
Why did you stopped doing this?
I was getting bored being at home so much. I felt ready to take on something new and more challenging. There was also a boyfriend (now my husband) whom I was getting serious about. He told me he would never ask me to stop working in phonesex, but I knew it bothered him. More importantly, I respected that despite his own discomfort he wouldn't ask me to stop.
There were also occasional problems with clients. One man back-searched my professional phone number and stalked my then-boyfriend and me. Another kept sending me creepy packages (they went to a post-office box, so I only heard about them second-hand from my boss) and gift certificates to places he wanted to meet at. Stuff like that can be frightening if the person is in proximity to me—even if they didn't know my real name or actual appearance.
Can this profession be fun?
Yes. First of all, it's cool to have a job that pays well and can be done in your comfiest pajamas. Making 50 cents a minute for talk-time was also great. I enjoyed chatting with lots of different men from every state and a few different countries. Pretending to be someone else is a neat experience, and I got to be lots of different people—from barely 18 through what we now call cougar age. I got to act gay, straight, bisexual, from shy virgin to experienced dominatrix—I role played through many things I've never done in real life. There's a big safety net in phonesex that lets you go through the emotions and vocalizations of acts that would be far too dangerous to try with a real person—let alone a stranger.
Any advice for beginners?
I've written a few articles on this that can be found at Kinkly.com. First and foremost, I would say to leave your modesty at the door. Turn off your inner critic, and throw any lingering shyness to the wind. Speak more slowly than you would normally, and take the time to describe every aspect of the scene. How you tell your sexy story is just as important as the story itself. And have fun with it. If you're not having a good time on the phones—that's probably a sign that it's not the right job for you. That said, don't give up if you have a couple of bad calls. Even the best job doesn't go swimmingly all the time.
And that, friends, is my adventure in Bosnia.
Of course, I don't speak Bosnian.
So I used Google Translate:
Hot line call at midnight
By Urban on November 19 , 2013
Phone sex is not lost on the popularity of the " hot" lines are equally heated as before . The velvety voice from the other side that you unmistakably tells you what you want to hear , only confirms the fact that the brain , rather than a bed , a place where going all
Sexy chat recommended as a way to break the monotony , and often no choice much more than that if they are partners in different parts of the world . Most of us , at least one part brave , he embarked on at least one of " love over the wire " , using a film phrases , overcoming shame and sweaty palms gripping the phone . There are those who liked this practice so they learn how to access much more relaxed and of course the professionals who whisper about " adult stuff " method to earn cash amounts that are not negligible . One of them is the American Wednesday Lee Friday, otherwise the girl interesting biography . For eight years she spent as a phone sex operator , and OR enrolled and activities such as radio host , editors , employees in fast food , tamer of reptiles and eventually found it in writing horror novella , which now brings her considerable success .
For sex operator job ad I found in The MetroTimes magazine . They were looking for a girl that could work from home , which for me was a great opportunity , because I haven't passed the driving test , and I live in a place where public transport is very poorly organized . Agency that gave ad led the couple , the woman is also working on " hot line " was very attractive and made no secret of its exterior, what more of her paintings were screened to one who called . Menu option to post your own photos did not like , so they found a model that was hiding behind my voice . Otherwise, as a person who has a bachelor 's degree in theater and broadcasting , conditions that were asked seemed to me as something quite natural . I previously worked in customer service so I have learned here how to treat and talk to people , I have a nice tone of voice , diction 've perfected at work radio host , and not an act we do not go bad due to the fact that I have a lot of time , especially during the study , conducted in the theater , recalled Wednesday .
The first day on the job , as it usually is , gone bad. Clients who are eagerly waiting to Wednes took the call did not have much understanding for beginners problems . The phone rang , and its " halo " rendered difficult task ; supposed to identify themselves with the much older and more experienced women than herself . He did not even befell the Title so it happened that after the " baby " of the same man calls " buddy " and her awkwardness and knew to be ridiculous . But , eventually acquiring routine.
" I spent hours and hours talking before I finally started to feel less uncomfortable . It is very important not to give up after a few disappointing call . And here you have bad and good days . At the beginning I was looking for ways to make it easier for myself and to escape from this terrible feeling of discomfort so I pribjeglavala and smoking marijuana in the minimum quantities that helped me to relax , but also stay concentrated . Basically , it is necessary to forget about shyness , turn off your inner critic, and I leave right outside the door . Speak slower than usual and do not rush to describe the scene . The manner in which you speak is as important as the story itself . I try to have fun . If you feel bad for a long time , then it is not a choice for you . "
Lee " hotline " calls during the show that sometimes the situation may get out of hand . It is not considered typical , but admits that sometimes grew very excited and it's through this work have learned more about myself , but also for men .
- I've always suspected that those who are called " hot line" and messing with pornography , insecure and emotionally sleepy , lazy . I still stand by it, but do not generalize . A lot of them are a masochist , which can be scary. Also , it is interesting that most of them did not know to say " goodbye " at the end . Would usually hang-ups immediately after excuses " oh " .
No matter what , even in " democratic " America could not because of the way she spent hours , find a public condemnation , Wednes did not hide when engaged . All her friends are her the absolute support , and often they are interested in the smallest details . On the other hand , was met with disapproval by parents who were terrified by the thought and the order could ever do something like that .
- I did not live with them, nor do I work for the right to use the name , and I decided that what I 'm doing between four walls is not their concern .
So , although the chitchat six hours a day always on the same topics , with occasional variations , should be monotonous , unusual requests was to spare and surprises did not end .
- I knew that somewhere in the world there are fans of the foot , but I was very familiar with the team to enjoy a sexual relationship with shoes . One longtime client has asked me to pretend I beat myself during the interview , others wanted to listen to me while Mork ... The point is that just because of the crowd of freaks learn once and say " no," for example, requests that are asked of me to I play a girl , quite a little girl , I refused . Different companies have different rules about what you may refuse , to me it was very important to always and at all times I can say " I do not want this ," even if it paid less for it.
After a while, Wednesday broke away from the agency and began working independently . She tried to form their own list of regular clients , which is much more demanding than answering calls that redirects the company . Around Ceti hours each day is spent waiting for calls .
- Making 50 cents per minute , sitting in his pajamas and chatting with people around the country , is not at all bad . During the day replacing a myriad of roles, you have between 18 and 70 years , you little homo , little bisekusualni , at one point shy virgin , and then the dominant mistress ... All the things you would never do in real life , it is possible .
Notwithstanding the aforementioned benefits , after a few years , her telephone romance became tiresome . Too much time is spent in the house , and she felt that she was ready to turn to something more serious . In addition , things with her then- boyfriend , husband present , are becoming more serious .
- He never told me to stop with this business , but I noticed that he seemed worried . Then there were the occasional problem with customers . One of them is stalking me , and others sent the strange , sometimes frightening packages . No matter what your identity is not known to have things that you do not give peace . However , if you ask me whether what you are doing sex operators to be fun , without thinking I will answer in the affirmative .
Wondering what I actually said? You're in luck, because I save copies of all my interviews.
How did you start with sex phone operator job and why?
I answered a listing in a magazine called The MetroTimes. It was based in Detroit, MI. They were looking for girls who could set up their own phone line to take sex calls from home. I don't drive and was living in a city with poor public transportation, so working from home was a great thing for me. I interviewed with a man who told me he owned the phonesex business with his wife. She was petite and attractive, and also sold pictures of herself to callers. I explained that I would not be willing to send nudes of myself, so a model was hired to portray me in photos.
Because I had a bachelor's degree in theatre and broadcasting, phonesex seemed like a natural job for me. I had worked customer service jobs in high school and college, so I knew how to talk to people. I had good vocal skills from being on the radio, and decent acting skills since I did a lot of theatre work.
Can you remember your first call?
Yes, I mainly remember that it didn't go so well. I was supposed to be portraying a woman who was much older than myself. I forgot this several times during the call—even referring to the caller as "dude" a few times. He didn't mind, but I was surprised at how uncomfortable I felt.
Have you ever felt really sexy or „turned on“ during some conversation?
I wouldn't say it's typical; but yes, it has happened. Phonesex is a performance, and sometimes a performance can get away from you. Plus, when I first started, I often smoked marijuana to put myself at ease. A little can really help a person relax—too much though, can be an issue on the job.
Did your friends and family knew what were you doing?
My friends all knew. I had, and continue to have, a lot of loving and supportive friends who are open-minded and sex-positive. None of them judged me negatively because of phonesex work—and many of them wanted to hear every sordid detail. My parents, on the other hand, were mortified at the mere suggestion that I would do such a thing. I wasn't using my real name though, and I didn't live with them—so I decided it wasn't any of their business.
Were there any unusual demands?
Oh my, yes! In fact, there were so many "unusual" demands that after a while—very few things seemed unusual to me. I knew, for example, that there were foot-fetishists somewhere in the world. But I had no idea they had intercourse with actual shoes. I had a long-time client who wanted me to pretend to hit myself during the call, and another who liked to listen to girls pee. There were several customers who wanted me to pretend to be very young girls—like, younger than puberty. I was not comfortable with this, and declined. I learned that different phonesex companies have different rules about what (if anything) you're allowed to refuse. I thought it was very important that I be able to decline any calls, requests, or clients I wasn't okay with—even if that meant a lower rate of pay.
Have you learned something new about men by being a sex phone operator, something that you didn’t know before?
I'm not sure that I did. I learned a lot more about myself and my reactions to and interactions with men than I learned about the men. I had always suspected that men were extremely superficial, insecure, and emotionally lazy. I still believe this is true for most men who call these lines, or who engage with pornography more than they do with actual women. But I haven't found this to be true of men in general. There are also an awful lot of masochists in the world. Some of those dudes are really creepy. I found it funny that some men would hang up the phone abruptly immediately after um…finishing. Typical phone etiquette includes saying goodbye—I'm still not sure what need that odd rudeness on their part was supposed to fulfill.
Can you describe us one ordinary working day as a phone actress?
It varied. When I did my own ads and set my own hours, I just stayed near the phone and went on about my day until calls came in. I'd take them, trying to keep the caller on the line for as long as possible while encouraging them to call back another day. Building one's own client base demanded a different skill set than simply taking calls with an established company. When I worked for companies that sent me calls, the calls typically came in with greater frequency. If I was logged in to take calls for 6 hours, I'd spend at least 4 hours of that time actually on the phone. Independent phonesex girls do a lot more waiting around.
Why did you stopped doing this?
I was getting bored being at home so much. I felt ready to take on something new and more challenging. There was also a boyfriend (now my husband) whom I was getting serious about. He told me he would never ask me to stop working in phonesex, but I knew it bothered him. More importantly, I respected that despite his own discomfort he wouldn't ask me to stop.
There were also occasional problems with clients. One man back-searched my professional phone number and stalked my then-boyfriend and me. Another kept sending me creepy packages (they went to a post-office box, so I only heard about them second-hand from my boss) and gift certificates to places he wanted to meet at. Stuff like that can be frightening if the person is in proximity to me—even if they didn't know my real name or actual appearance.
Can this profession be fun?
Yes. First of all, it's cool to have a job that pays well and can be done in your comfiest pajamas. Making 50 cents a minute for talk-time was also great. I enjoyed chatting with lots of different men from every state and a few different countries. Pretending to be someone else is a neat experience, and I got to be lots of different people—from barely 18 through what we now call cougar age. I got to act gay, straight, bisexual, from shy virgin to experienced dominatrix—I role played through many things I've never done in real life. There's a big safety net in phonesex that lets you go through the emotions and vocalizations of acts that would be far too dangerous to try with a real person—let alone a stranger.
Any advice for beginners?
I've written a few articles on this that can be found at Kinkly.com. First and foremost, I would say to leave your modesty at the door. Turn off your inner critic, and throw any lingering shyness to the wind. Speak more slowly than you would normally, and take the time to describe every aspect of the scene. How you tell your sexy story is just as important as the story itself. And have fun with it. If you're not having a good time on the phones—that's probably a sign that it's not the right job for you. That said, don't give up if you have a couple of bad calls. Even the best job doesn't go swimmingly all the time.
And that, friends, is my adventure in Bosnia.