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Coupla things:
Here's what I'm sick of saying to people this week, but still mean:
1. Take responsibility for your own happiness.
This is one of the hardest things for people to do. I know a lot of unhappy people would would rather wallow in sadness and victimization rather than simply speaking up in their own defense. Then, they blame other people for their inability to assert themselves, even though they are adults. A blaming stance is a very comfortable way to keep from moving forward in life. Just ask my mom...oh, I mean me. Seriously people, if you're waiting around for someone to make your life better, get over it already.
2. Reasonable people can disagree.
Here in the US, people on all sides are pissed about this or that. I often catch myself being disgusted or infuriated by people who disagree with things I feel strongly about. But in the end, the surest sign that you're not a fascist is to simply allow people to respectfully disagree. Honestly, it took me a lot of reframing and therapy and such before I could stop hearing "I don't agree" as "Wednes, you're an idiot". It kept me from being able to have logical or rational debates, because I was quick to feel personally attacked by general disagreements. So I understand where people are coming from, but seriously...get over it already. Or at least admit that it's not the whole rest of the world making you miserable (see above).
3. Know the value of things.
No amount of money, objects, anything is worth your health, your happiness, or your loved ones. Why don't people know that yet? Why haven't people realized that taking care of themselves is the first and most important step to being a good spouse, friend, parent, sibling, or employee even? So many people think they're being somehow virtuous or unselfish by not addressing physical or mental health issues. That is so fucked. And frankly, if you go through life not seeing the value of what you have enough to take care of it, you don't really deserve it.
4. Posting on a controversial topic and removing comments from it doesn't really give you the last word.
It just makes you look like someone who refuses to withstand, or even know about the scrutiny of others. Setting up the equivalant of a Free Speech Zone* on the internet is the action of a fascist. Yep, I've said "fascist" twice now. It's my new word I like. Seriously though, several of you have done this lately, and I don't get it. Can someone explain to me what the point of that is? Saying something like "abortion is murder" or "all muslims are terrorists" and then disallowing comments? How is that anything but an excersize in intentionally infuriating people?
*Free Speech Zone: a recent American construct wherein those who disagree with Bush are removed from camera range until all reporters are gone. This is one of the reasons other countries think all American's support Bush. Amazing how intenetionally misleading political spin can be, no? /sarcasm.
On a less irritating topic, TV was pretty funny today. And H bought us a new DVD recorder. Whoooooo!
1. Take responsibility for your own happiness.
This is one of the hardest things for people to do. I know a lot of unhappy people would would rather wallow in sadness and victimization rather than simply speaking up in their own defense. Then, they blame other people for their inability to assert themselves, even though they are adults. A blaming stance is a very comfortable way to keep from moving forward in life. Just ask my mom...oh, I mean me. Seriously people, if you're waiting around for someone to make your life better, get over it already.
2. Reasonable people can disagree.
Here in the US, people on all sides are pissed about this or that. I often catch myself being disgusted or infuriated by people who disagree with things I feel strongly about. But in the end, the surest sign that you're not a fascist is to simply allow people to respectfully disagree. Honestly, it took me a lot of reframing and therapy and such before I could stop hearing "I don't agree" as "Wednes, you're an idiot". It kept me from being able to have logical or rational debates, because I was quick to feel personally attacked by general disagreements. So I understand where people are coming from, but seriously...get over it already. Or at least admit that it's not the whole rest of the world making you miserable (see above).
3. Know the value of things.
No amount of money, objects, anything is worth your health, your happiness, or your loved ones. Why don't people know that yet? Why haven't people realized that taking care of themselves is the first and most important step to being a good spouse, friend, parent, sibling, or employee even? So many people think they're being somehow virtuous or unselfish by not addressing physical or mental health issues. That is so fucked. And frankly, if you go through life not seeing the value of what you have enough to take care of it, you don't really deserve it.
4. Posting on a controversial topic and removing comments from it doesn't really give you the last word.
It just makes you look like someone who refuses to withstand, or even know about the scrutiny of others. Setting up the equivalant of a Free Speech Zone* on the internet is the action of a fascist. Yep, I've said "fascist" twice now. It's my new word I like. Seriously though, several of you have done this lately, and I don't get it. Can someone explain to me what the point of that is? Saying something like "abortion is murder" or "all muslims are terrorists" and then disallowing comments? How is that anything but an excersize in intentionally infuriating people?
*Free Speech Zone: a recent American construct wherein those who disagree with Bush are removed from camera range until all reporters are gone. This is one of the reasons other countries think all American's support Bush. Amazing how intenetionally misleading political spin can be, no? /sarcasm.
On a less irritating topic, TV was pretty funny today. And H bought us a new DVD recorder. Whoooooo!